Attachment theory is the backbone of EFT. In a nutshell, attachment theory says we seek proximity to primary attachment figures when we are under threat. In relationship, our partners become a primary attachment figure. When our partners are emotionally responsive, this equals safety. When they are emotionally unavailable, it equates to danger. So when couple's fight, it's rarely about the content itself (dishes, sex, logistics etc). It's about... - Can I reach you when I'm scared? - Will you turn toward me or leave me alone with this? Attachment injury occurs when partner needed the other, but they were unavailable to the point that it caused safety to be shattered. Related Notes: - [[Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)]]