Related Notes: - [[Primary emotions in EFT]] - [[Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)]] # Step 1: Listen for ONE specific feeling / moment that is said "When he didn't text back, I felt stupid" # Step 2: Focus in on the feeling, and let there be silence "Oh wow, so in that moment, you felt...stupid...." # Step 3: Move downward, not forward Ask questions that dive deeper into the feeling, don't try to move forward with something else. - “What happens inside when you say that?” - “Where do you feel that in your body?” - “What’s the hardest part of that feeling?” - “If we stayed with that for a moment, what shows up?” # Step 4: Listen for attachment meaning How does their response show up in terms of attachment?