- Battle for structure, don't be afraid to raise your voice and move closer to deescalate high conflict - A gentle touch on the side of the arm is a soothing way to comfort somebody - Sue never does EFT on a sofa, it is very important for the couple to see each other better for bonding - Make the process of writing things down explicit "I write things down that you say that I think are really important so I hang on to them" - Constantly remind them about the cycle Related Notes: - [[Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)]] - [[Dr. Sue Johnson]]