In EFT, there is a specific protocol to address attachment injuries. # 1) Identify and stay with the attachment injury Have the injured partner tell their story. As a therapist your job is to track the emotions, the attachment, and the feelings not so much the content. Be sure to tell the other partner to just listen during this time. They don't have to do anything else. # 2) Deepen the emotions beneath the injury As a therapist, this is where you translate their story into feelings and attachment themes. # 3) Enactment: Share the injury Have the injured partner share their story with the other partner. # 4) The other partner responds Have the other partner reflect back with their hearing in their own words and perhaps even ask them what they're feeling as they hear all this. # 5) Process the response Bringing it back to the injured partner, how are they feeling as they hear the response? Do they feel seen? # 6) Consolidate Eventually your goal is to get to a point where they can recognize that the partner reached for the other in the past but they didn't respond; but now they are reaching and they are responding. --- Related Notes: - [[Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)]] This note was originally created on **April 24, 2026**.